Everyone deals with low self-esteem from time to time. Our confidence is shaken when
something unexpected happens, or a mistake occurs. We begin to question ourselves, asking
ourselves things such as: “Am I good enough?” “Do I deserve this?”
What’s unfortunate is when our self-esteem is shaken so much that it begins to influence our
perspective of our relationship with our partner. Although we can never prevent feelings of
inadequacy or stop the possible questions of our self-worth, it does help to be aware of when
these feelings occur. Being mindful of these occurrences, especially in our romantic
relationships, can certainly go a long way. If ignored, our perception of our relationship or our
partner may become distorted, as we slowly decline into the funky world of low self-esteem.
And then what? We watch our romantic relationship fade away into the break-up abyss? No
way! We can fight back – first, we must recognize that our self-esteem is negatively affecting
our relationship. That’s a tough pill to swallow. Yet once we recognize this, we can do
something about it. There is nothing wrong with talking it out – with a professional, trusted
friend, and yes, even your partner. Secondly, practice changing self-talk. The next time bad
things float into thought, change it around to something nice. With practice, it can really help re-
build self-esteem, which in turn helps strengthen relationships with others.
What are some ways you practice self-love?