Obtaining a satisfying relationship by being supportive

Relationships are guaranteed to have their ups and downs.  When one or both of the individuals in the relationship suffer from symptoms of anxiety, depression, trauma or even PTSD, new challenges may be encountered.  However, that does not mean a satisfying relationship can’t be obtained.  Through open communication, understanding, patience, and compassion, your relationship can change for the better.  Ignoring an illness is the same as ignoring your spouse.  Being a supportive spouse rather than attempting to be their doctor, therapist, or parent can go a long way.  Those who challenge, stand beside, carry, and build up their spouse when needed creates the support and love their spouse can expect to stay by their sides through thick and thin.  Have you ever wondered what you could do to help your spouse?      

  1. When your spouse is feeling down, hopeless, and speaks of negative thoughts, challenge them by being optimistic like asking them what feels good when they say they don’t feel good.
  2. Learn about your spouse condition, learn their triggers and learn how to avoid setting them off.  
  3. Your spouse does not want you to walk on eggshells when you are around them.   Be honest with how you are feeling, but control your tone and be gentle.  Your spouse wants to know you aren’t afraid of share your thoughts, fears, frustrations and ideas with them.  
  4. Surround yourself with people who love and care for you and your spouse.
  5. Give your spouse and yourself space to heal by allowing them to do things on their own.  Offering suggestions are appreciated but try not to be overwhelming.